Saturday, April 24, 2010
Off we go to A.'s house
A question that often comes up in families with more than one child is how to keep the younger one out of the older one's toys. In a lot of cases, I don't think you can unless you are willing to take some of the independence away and put the toys in question out of reach. However, it make more sense (from an independence point of view) to mirror the lesson that our children learn in the classroom. That one may not touch another's work and that an activity must be put back on the shelf when finished.
The next time you observe in your child's classroom, watch how the teachers guide the children to return activities to the shelves. Sometimes it will be a simple touch on the shoulder and an indication to the shelf. Other times it will be more direct "You seem to be finished with this activity. Would you like some help putting it back on the shelf?"
One mother has solved this problem by consulting with her older child. The toys that the child is willing to share with her sibling are kept in the livingroom. Those toys that are precious and are not to be shared are kept in the little girl's closet on a low shelf. The door to the closet can be opened by the older child but not by the younger one. A perfect solution.